I can still remember being at the concert by myself.
I had been casually dating this guy for a few months who I was really into. Even though deep down I knew something was missing that I may never be able to ‘fix’, I so desperately wanted him to like me.
I found out that one of his favorite bands was Pearl Jam and they were going to be coming to Boston, where I lived at the time.
I thought that this was it! It was my chance to be the “cool girl” and really impress him by buying a pair of tickets. I thought if we just bonded enough and I showed him how fun I was then maybe he’d want to commit.
Side note: While I do not talk about the “cool girl” syndrome in this episode I want you to be aware of this. So many women think if they can just be cool and accommodating enough, then a guy will like them. We then pretzel ourselves into someone we’re not and end up feeling frustrated and depleted. It’s sooo not worth it!
The day of the concert he made an excuse about why he couldn’t go. Yup, to his favorite band.
I felt completely let down, sad, embarrassed, and rejected.
I did not let those tickets go to waste! I still went to the concert, by myself, and had an amazing time. But I felt so disappointed and well….clingy…that I realized I never wanted to feel rejected in dating again.
I was interviewed the other morning on our local ABC news station about how to be rejection proof when you’re dating.
I have 5 tips for you that can save you a ton of time, energy, and heartache.
As Steve Harvey so wisely shared, “The moment you realize he doesn’t want the same thing that you want, let him go.”
While you may never have full control over if a guy is into you or not, you do have control around how it makes you feel.
Rejection is only a story we’re telling ourselves in our mind. What if every mismatched date and relationship was simply not the right fit?
As you realize that you never have to feel rejected again, it becomes easier to let your walls down, hold onto your own personal sovereignty, and keep your head held high as you let another soul into your life.
Once you’ve had a chance to watch this interview, c’mon over to the blog and let me know:
Has there been a time when you felt completely rejected? Which tip are you going to embrace moving forward in love and dating?
Leave a comment below and let me know.
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