Phew, what a whirlwind this past two weeks have been!
My husband and I just relocated from Boston, MA to Portland, OR after packing up our apartment, finding a new home and getting our two large dogs on a plane.
At 33 weeks pregnant.
While I was flying somewhere over Michigan and flipping through the Delta magazine, I saw an ad for NY Times Best Selling Author Alan Fox’s latest book: People Tools for Love and Relationships.
Ironically, I had a pre-edited copy of the very same book, signed by Alan, in my purse that I brought along to prep for my interview with him.
Even though I had shut down my business that week for the move craziness, I knew when Alan asked me to interview him I had to make space in my calendar.
Boy am I glad I did!
We had such a dynamic and enlightening interview. At the age of 75, with six children, three marriages (currently with his wife Daveen for 35 years!) and a very successful career…Alan has a lot of wisdom to share.
The book includes useful relationship tools such as:
How To Be The Right Person. To build a successful life partnership, it’s more important to learn to be the right person than it is to find the right person.
The Best Defense Is No Defense. While having a strong defense is helpful on the battlefield, being defensive in your relationships can cause serious problems.
Happiness Equals Expectations Minus Reality. No one is perfect. To enter into a relationship you need to be an optimist. To stay in and enjoy that relationship, you need to be a realist. It is important to accept your partner as he or she is, including faults.
The Key Is You. If you think, “Iʼve done my part. I have changed. The remaining problem is him or her.” Youʼre wrong. The key to any successful relationship is you.
I think you’ll find his story to be wonderfully refreshing and optimistic. Perfect for anyone looking for love or who just wants to give their relationship a power boost.
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After you’ve had a chance to listen, I’d love to hear from you.
If there was a ‘tool’ you could create that has helped in your relationships, what would it be? Or was there a tool mentioned in this episode that would serve you to take advantage of?
Leave a comment below and let me know.
xo
Alexis
P.S. You can visit www.peopletoolsbook.com to learn more about Alan and grab your own copy!
I have also been married 3 times but divorced 3 times too. I did have a long distance relationship for a couple of years where I spent the winter with him in the South. It didn’t work out for many reasons. We have remained friends and i am glad of that. I think the biggest thing that I have learned is that it is better to be kind than to be right. That took me a long time to learn. Also accepting someone unconditionally. That is a very hard thing to do when you feel you have been deceived. Once you lose the trust you had in the other it is very difficult to love unconditionally again.
Thank you for your comment Kathy! Learning that it is better to be kind than to be right is certainly difficult to put into practice – but we can ALL learn from this! I agree with accepting someone unconditionally…it’s taken me a while to learn to be more realistic in my relationships and not expect for someone, or myself, to be perfect. xo
Some great advice in this article.
Thank you!