I began my coaching career purely as a self-love coach.

It took a long time for the meaning of self-love to really come into focus for me, as well as it’s role in relationships, but I still stand by it’s importance today.

I recently read Brene Brown’s book “Daring Greatly”, in which her research data proves that self-love is foundational to loving others and receiving love in return.

However, there may still be a part of you that just doesn’t know what to do with that.

You don’t feel any different.

You’re not attracting anything different.

But what you can do, what you can do right now, is shift your mindset.

Stop looking at yourself the way you’ve always looked at yourself.

We’re the first to point out everything that we think is wrong with us.

We’re the first to notice what we’re not happy with when we look in the mirror.

Starting right now, let’s change that.

The truth is, there’s nothing wrong with us. It’s not about that at all.

If there are things you’d like to improve or do differently, by all means, do that!

I have an accountability mirror where I write in chalk marker reminders of these things.

My accountability mirror includes:

“Get dressed and put on make up” (because it ALWAYS makes me feel a little better).

“Mind the Gap” (being attentive of the values I want to have versus the values I practice).

“No complaining, you are blessed.”

Self-love is about rising above everything we’ve been led to believe about ourselves as being true that we think is inherently not good enough, and starting a new belief system about ourselves.

A belief system that sees ourselves as beautiful and whole. A belief system that attracts wonderful relationships into our lives.

Love Step: Bring more awareness to your self-talk.

Notice when you start spinning out on something you said on a date.

Or if you did the wrong thing and that’s why he didn’t text.

Or if you start comparing to everyone else on Instagram who you then deem is better than you in some way or has it better than you in some way.

Learn to take a PAUSE.

Deep breath.

Tell yourself a different story from the perspective of someone who loves you.

Example: “Alexis, I know you’re worried that you didn’t spend enough time with your three year old today and feeling badly about your role as a mother, but you were as present as you could be and he loves you. Give yourself some grace. Motherhood is hard and tomorrow is a fresh start.”

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I’d love to hear from you:

Leave a comment below and give us an example like I did above about something you start to over analyze, and how you can shift your self-talk more lovingly.

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