I get asked all the time how do I meet a significant other and I was recently interviewed by KATU in Portland. They did a special that aired on Valentine’s Day about how to meet a significant other in 2018.
I hope you had a great Valentine’s Day! Some of the best Valentine’s Days I’ve ever had were when I was single.
I can still remember Valentine’s Day when I was 25, dating my boyfriend Josh at the time. I had bought a new dress that I thought I looked sexy in, got all dolled up, and he picked me up for a romantic dinner at an Italian restaurant he had made a reservation for. As soon as we got in the car he snidely said, “I feel like I’m picking you up for prom or something.”
Talk about feeling like an idiot.
I had tried so hard to make it special, but instead we sat in the Italian restaurant, silently sipping our wine, unsure of what to say to each other.
I probably should’ve known in that moment that the relationship wouldn’t work out. And thank God for that!
It didn’t compare to the Valentine’s Days that I had spent single, going out with girlfriends, laughing over cocktails and dancing the night away. Or the most recent one I spent with my husband, having a nice dinner together, putting our son to bed, and spooning on the couch while we watched our new favorite Netflix show “The Ranch”.
These were the best Valentine’s Days because they were casual and carefree, spent with people I love without all the romantic pressure.
So no matter what phase of life you’re in, make it count, and don’t wish the days away.
And if you’re ready to meet your significant other by next Valentine’s Day, read the article below that KATU in Portland interviewed me on.
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Here is the transcript from the news article on KATU in Portland.
“It’s Valentine’s Day, you’re alone, but you don’t want to be. What do you do? How are you supposed to find that special someone in 2018 where everyone is using a different app or website, and some folks say people don’t know how to talk to each other in person?
We hit the streets and asked as many Portlanders as we could find one simple question: How did you find your significant other?
Normally, we ask tough questions, often political, but nearly everyone was happy to stop and chat, telling us a story that brought a smile to their faces.
– “I met her on the street,” said one man. “Just started up a conversation and took it from there.”
– “I met my husband in high school. He was the studly catcher on the baseball team,” said one woman.
– “We were in the same classroom.”
– “We actually met in first grade; we’ve been best friends since first grade.”
– “My sister-in-law went to school with him, she introduced us. I was living in Minneapolis and she wanted me to move out here so she told me she’d introduce me to men till I met one I wanted to marry.”
– “We had an office romance. We tried to play it off.”
– “Through college. We had similar classes. We passed each other on the steps quite a few times. Then serendipitously our paths crossed.”
– “On Tinder.” (Naturally, we asked if it worked out) “It did. We’re married!”
– “E-Harmony.” (It worked out in this one too)
– “Tinder.” (So far so good on this one)
– “My wife is from Germany. She was an exchange student to my high school in Corvallis. Just one-year and done, she was going to go back to Germany, and I closed the deal.”
If none of those suggestions help you, we also spoke with Alexis Meads, a dating and relationship coach. One of the first things she told us: technology has taken over the dating scene.
“You can’t ignore the technology now. It’s how a lot of people are meeting each other. I would recommend finding a site or an app that you enjoy, but keep it simple, keep it fun, because when people go online, they get overwhelmed really quickly,” said Alexis Meads.
Meads says online dating puts you in a larger pool of people to potentially find.
For those who choose to try online dating, Meads says the goal should be to take the conversation into real life as quickly as possible.
“That being said, people are still meeting each other very traditionally as well. Through friends, going out, finding events you love, joining clubs. Right now it’s a mix of everything,” she said.
Meads says she has gone on dates with people she sat next to on a plane. She met her husband at a concert. Most importantly, she says you need to get out, look to meet new people and make new friends.
“Make sure you’re putting yourself out there, you’re having fun, you’re smiling, using positive body language, and just making a point to meet people,” said Meads.
When you finally go on a date with someone, Meads says your body language is important. She says it is important to smile, make eye contact, and sit up straight. Use your hands because they indicate trust. Sitting up straight indicates confidence. If you lean into a conversation, it shows you are interested in what they have to say.
If you are getting frustrated with your lack of a love life, Meads wants to assure you that you are not destined to be alone forever with two dozen cats.
“My advice for you if you’re single this Valentine’s Day, just enjoy the life you have now. There are plenty of married couples out there who miss their single days for so many reasons,” she said.
There you go! My local news segment…I hope you enjoyed it!
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