I was fortunate to connect with Dr. Avila who wrote a book around Love Types and Guy Types to help people find love. I had the chance to interview him and it was so fascinating learning about these different guy types!

After reading the interview, post a comment below if you recognize what TYPE of guy you typically date? Or what type you are yourself?

Alexis Meads: What made you specifically interesting in dating and helping people find love? What was the inspiration behind your books Love Types and Guy Types?

Dr. Avila:

It all began when I was in an incompatible relationship.  Everything seemed wonderful in the beginning—she was beautiful, charming, and intelligent—but then I realized we were incompatible, and the pain of heartbreak began.

I realized that there exists in the world a Dating Masquerade, in which singles put on masks to impress each other. When the party ends, and the masks comes off, they often find that they have little in common. Based on my personal experience and desire to find the secrets of compatibility, I began to do research into personality types (based on Carl Jung and the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator), and the result was the bestseller LoveTypes in 1999. LoveTypes has been used by over 40 million people worldwide to find love.

In 2017, I updated and streamlined LoveTypes into GuyTypes: Helping women find their ideal guy from among the 4 Love Personality groups by using our modern social media technology.

Alexis Meads: The idea of Love Types and Guy Types is very interesting. Can you tell us more about the books?

Dr. Avila:

LoveTypes talks about the 16 romantic styles or LoveTypes and helps readers first identify their romantic style and also the best match for them.

GuyTypes brings LoveTypes into the new technological age and simplifies it into 4 main romantic personality types, or GuyTypes.  A woman can first discover her own romantic type, then go out in the real world (or online world) to find her ideal GuyType (compatible match).  The book also teaches woman how to apply romantic networking and personality profiling to help them find the best GuyType match for them.

Alexis Meads: What are the different Guy Types and how can this help women to find love?

Dr. Avila:

Once a woman knows her ideal GuyType match (one of four), she will also learn where to find him, how to break the ice, and how to win his heart for a long-term relationship.

Here are the 4 GuyTypes:

Knowledge Seeker (NT: Intuitive Thinker)14.8% of the male population. You’ve met your “Iron Man”:  Brilliant, powerful, innovative, and ultimately successful.  His incredible brainpower will stimulate your mind (and body), and his incisive, witty take on life will keep you intrigued and fascinated. He may be a scientist, lawyer, professor, inventor, engineer, entrepreneur, or a leader in business and government. 

Meaning Seeker (NF—Intuitive Feeler): 13.5% of the male population. If you’ve ever wanted to be romanced like a goddess, then this is the right guy for you. Sensitive, imaginative, artistic, philosophical, poetic, and a true romantic: He is the lover of all lovers.  He may be a psychologist, philosopher, teacher, artist, spiritual leader, poet, or he may be involved (or lead) humanitarian/charitable organizations. He is often romantic, loving, and spiritual.

Security Seeker (SJ: Sensing Judger)43.1% of the male population. You’ve found your rock: steady, reliable, traditional, and family-orientated. He is the loyal husband and loving father who will be by your side for life; there is nothing he won’t do for you and the family he loves. Security seekers often make excellent stable, reliable, and traditional husbands (providers and protectors) and fathers (supportive and dependable). He is not the kind to just play around, or date endlessly.

The Excitement Seeker (SP: Sensing Perceiver): 28.6% of the male population. Get ready and fasten your seat belts—the fun is about to begin. This charismatic and confident guy will bring as much fun, laughter, and enjoyment into your life together as humanly possible. His middle name is excitement. He was created to bring fun, spontaneity, excitement, and adventure into your life. The Excitement Seeker is the definition of the fun companion who will always keep you laughing, excited, thrilled, stimulated, and “hot” for him and whatever adventure or activity he has planned for you next.

Alexis Meads: What is some advice from the book that you could offer up to our community, that they could put into action right now?

Dr. Avila:

Whenever you go out on a date, or meet an interesting guy, use personality profiling to determine his GuyType (to see if he’s compatible with you).

Ask him the 3 Magic Questions:

What would you do if you won $10 million? If he would save and invest (or use if for a sensual experience such as traveling), then he is practical/sensory—give him the letter “S” for Sensor. If he would start some grand creative or innovative project (spaceship to Mars), then give him the letter “N” which stands for “Intuitive” (Imaginative)

What’s your favorite movie? If he liked it because of the plot, story, and the way it was made, he is a Thinker (he makes choices with his logic). If he loved it because of the emotions and relationships, he is a Feeler (he makes choices primarily with his heart)

If you got invited to Vegas, a work or school day, tomorrow, would you go?  If “Yes,” he is spontaneous, give him the letter, “P” which stands for “Perceiver (spontaneous). If he says, “No, I have to plan it,” give him the letter “J” which stands for “Judger” (which means structured).

Now put the two letter combinations together, and you get his GuyType.

NF (Intuitive Feeler):  Meaning Seeker

NT (Intuitive Thinker): Knowledge Seeker

SP (Sensing Perceiver): Excitement Seeker

SJ (Sensing Judger): Security Seeker.

Hot Tip: You usually want to find someone from your same personality group (Meaning Seeker,  Knowledge Seeker, Excitement Seeker, or Security Seeker)—you have more in common. For example, if you’re a Security Seeker, you’re better off with a Security Seeker.  If you’re a Meaning Seeker, you’re more compatible with a fellow Meaning Seeker.

Alexis Meads: What else does this interesting book have in store for them?

Dr. Avila:

Once you know who your ideal GuyType is, you can get involved in online (or offline) communities and groups that cater to the specific Guytype you’re looking for. This is called Romantic Networking and saves you a great deal of time and effort because you go to the best dating pool for the GuyType you’re looking for.

Here are some places where you can find your ideal GuyType:

        Knowledge Seeker:  Groups and organizations dealing with science, technology, entrepreneurship, gaming, law, and intellectual activities (chess).

        Meaning Seeker:  Groups and organizations dealing with psychology, philosophy, spirituality, the arts, and making a difference in the world (charitable and humanitarian organizations).

Excitement Seeker:  Comedy clubs, dance clubs, concerts, social/business networking activities, wine tasting, as well as outdoor and extreme sports activities and organizations, such as rock climbing, off-roading, motorcycle riding, river rafting, bungee jumping, parachuting, gun shooting, fishing, car clubs, and mixed martial arts.

Security Seeker: Groups and organizations revolving around family, church (picnics, socials), charity fundraisers, local concerts and grand openings, home improvement, children, pets, patriotism, and helping the community (PTA, neighborhood watch, local ball games).

For more information, check out guytypes.com and Dr. Avila’s weekly podcast on iTunes: Love University.

xo

Alexis

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