A Surprising Side Effect of Clearing Out the Clutter

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The first week of the Crazy Wild Love Academy always starts the same way…with clearing out the clutter.

We talk about how to identify physical, mental and emotional clutter and then get to work simplifying your life by getting rid of the junk!
 
I had a conversation with a client the other night who I hadn’t spoken to for a few weeks and she said “Oh my God Alexis…the clearing out the clutter week ended up being a whole month and seriously changed my life!”
 
Of course I was intrigued.
 
She said that she went through ALL of her stuff and decided to purge anything that wasn’t serving her. Going forward, she wanted to keep things simple and only wanted to make room for new things in her life that added some kind of value. I told her about the ultimate blog is simple living: zenhabits.net.
 
And the surprising side effect?
 
She was able to sell her designer makeup (yes, even partly used) and made over $500! She used this money to purchase an adventurous ski trip even though she’s never tried skiing before. It also launched her into a passion for clean beauty by replacing her traditional products with organic, environmentally friendly ones.
 
The whole process left her feeling lighter, clearer and more in line with her values by supporting things she cares about in her life.
 
So I decided to give you some tools I use in my program for clearing out some physical AND mental clutter in your life.

Step 1: Tackle the Physical Clutter

tackle the physical clutter
Yes, love, it’s time to clean out that clutter! All that physical junk that keeps us feeling exhausted, heavy and stuck. We avoid thinking about it, which just weighs on our psyches even further keeping us from feeling at ease, clear and even getting that sexy bikini body you dream of!
 
Go through the list below and pick one area that you want to concentrate, the one that you know is holding the most weight for you right now.

What You’ll Need:

  • 3 Large Trash Bags
  • A Sharpie
  • Nearby Goodwill or other Donation
  • An Honest Friend

List:

  • Bedroom Closet
  • Kitchen
  • Bathroom Vanity
  • Office Space

Steps:

Go through all your stuff and ask yourself, “Is this supporting my life’s desires? Does this, in its condition, make me feel good?” If the answer is no, then put it in the bag to donate!
 
When going through your clothes, really ask yourself “Do I feel absolutely amazing when I wear this?” or “Have I worn this in the past year?” Once again, if the answer is no, in the bag it goes!
 
Once you’ve gone through one section on the list, post what you’ve done in the comments so we can all congratulate you!

Reward:

For those of you feel shocked by letting go of so much, I’ve been there and know it can be scary. Simply breathe. You are doing great. When you’ve cleared out some of your clutter, reward yourself by making the space look beautiful. Buy some fresh flowers and arrange them in a gorgeous vase to add to your new space.

 

Step 2: Tackle the Mental Clutter

mental clutter
This exercise wouldn’t be complete without addressing mental clutter. When we leave things on our to-do lists, or tell ourselves we’ll get to it next week or next year, we’re actually draining our mental energy. Let’s clear out that mental clutter and open ourselves up to to fresh energy and enthusiasm!

What You’ll Need:

  • Pen
  • Piece of paper
  • 10 minutes

List:

  • All your to-dos

Steps:

Set a timer for 10 minutes and write down everything you can possibly think of that you’ve been meaning or wanting to do! This could be those emails you’ve been meaning to send, that phone call to your Grandma or the haircut you haven’t gotten around to. Write it all down now.
 
Once you’ve got your list select ONE THING that is holding you back the most. Commit to getting it checked off your to-do list this week.

 

Now I’d love to hear from you. Do you ever feel overwhelmed by clutter in your life? How does it effect you? And what steps are you going to commit to for creating space in your life? I can’t wait to hear from you in the comments below.

 

Alexis Signature

 

 

 
 

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My Clean Beauty Box from Art of Organics

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After studying sustainability in graduate school, various aspects of my life have undergone a shift.

First I limited the types of foods I wanted to put into my body and effects they have on the environment by choosing organic whenever possible. Next I looked at the cleaning products I kept around the house. The manufactured scents never smelled like “clean” to me, but rather an overwhelming mix of chemicals. I use white vinegar to clean most surfaces and essential oils to freshen up my home.
 
One thing I was always reluctant to change was my beauty regimen. I liked my store-bought makeup and fancy lotions. I knew that in theory anything I put onto my skin was absorbed into my body, but this is easier to ignore than directly putting it into your mouth.
 
I slowly started making changes like using coconut oil rather than moisturizer (thank you soft glowing skin in the winter!) and switched to sulfate free shampoos.

However my makeup and regular beauty products? I didn’t know if I could give those up.

 
That’s when a friend and colleague introduced me to Art of Organics and I was thrilled to give it a try! I had been meaning to overhaul my beauty regimen for a long time and take a look at those nasty chemicals that are in much of my makeup.
 
This box did not let me down. Everything about it felt luxurious.
 
I ordered the February Valentine’s Day box and squealed when it arrived at my doorstep. It was like receiving a beautifully wrapped, artfully decorated present.
 
The first thing I noticed was a small hand-written card with a heart on it that smelled faintly of flowers and informing me that all the packaging material was sustainably sourced.
 
Before opening each product I took the time to read through the Art of Organics pamphlet describing each little goodie that was in my box, how to use it and the philosophy of the company that produced it.
 
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Next I slowly lifted the soft white tissue paper and got to work exploring my new treasures.

The beauty box curation was completely on-point with the perfect mixture of products. There was everything from hand-made rose petal bubble bath to organic lip and rouge tint to a ginger & cypress soothing mud mask.
 
Each product was indulgent and definitely a feast for ALL the senses!

clean beauty box 4The first thing I did was paint my nails with the perfect nude tone by HABIT included in the box.

While waiting for my nails to dry, I exfoliated my face with the bamboo charcoal cleansing sponge and tried on the mud mask!
 
I currently have a mixture of makeup including everything from CVS bought to Chanel. But honestly, I don’t think I’ll ever go back to buying traditional beauty products.
 
Using these products gives me peace of mind that I’m doing something good for myself and the environment without giving up a single thing.

 

Alexis Signature

 

 

 

Single? Here are 5 Ways to Have the Best Valentine’s Day Ever

Single Here are 5 Ways to Have the Best Valentine's Day Ever

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I have spent many Valentine’s Days single.

 
I put a ton of pressure on Valentine’s Day because it seemed that all around me people were in beautiful relationships, being showered with love. Everyone except for me.

 
All of those Hallmark cards at the local pharmacy, red roses in the grocery store and little chocolate hearts shower us with messages of what our relationships should look like. And should is one of the most unacceptable words in the English language. It has the power to basically sap the joy right out of your life!

 
Now that I am married, Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean as much to me as I thought it would. I wish I hadn’t spent so many years pining over what I didn’t have and started appreciating the life in front of me. Because it’s not just about Valentine’s Day, it’s about celebrating and tapping into the love available to you every day of the year.

 
So don’t fret, here are 5 ways to help you have the most love-drenched, satisfying Valentine’s Day ever.

 

1. Pamper yourself in self-love.

Choose to make Valentine’s Day less about romantic love and more about the love of self. Because let me tell you, nothing in my life started working until I fully, passionately embraced self-love.

 
Realize that you are beautiful, right now, exactly as you are. That you have gifts that only you can bring to this world. That you deserve love.

 
Sure, I know that going out to eat by yourself is different than going on a date, but is that any less reason to do it?

 
If the idea of this makes you uncomfortable, then all the more reason to go for it! So today, ask yourself how you could benefit from greater self-love. Start by writing a list of all the qualities that you love about yourself. Write at least 10, and then write 10 more.

 

2. Have a great time with friends.

Just because you’re single is no reason to stay at home alone. If you’re feeling a bit low because you’re not in a relationship, the worst thing you can do is seclude yourself and wallow in those feelings. That will just leave you feeling more disconnected.

 
Get out there and have some fun! Some of my absolute favorite Valentine’s Days were spent with a group of girlfriends going out for dinner and dancing. We got dressed to the nines and treated the night as an adventure and a celebration of one another.

 

3. Know exactly how you want to feel.

I talk about desired feelings a lot because this is a life-changing concept. If you want to be in a relationship but you’re not currently feeling any of the feelings that you’d like to have when in a relationship, you are blocking yourself from finding great love.

 
So Valentine’s Day is the perfect day to get very, very clear on the way you desire to feel.

 
Is it to feel cherished? Nurtured? Sexy?

 
Here’s the key: create those feelings for yourself right now. And what better day to do it? So take your power back and buy yourself flowers, cook yourself dinner, light some candles, put on soft music and get into a hot bath. Feel your heart open as you allow yourself to get lost in love by taking in the scents, tastes and sounds that surround you. Practice connecting to feelings and joy will begin to flood your heart.

 

4. Revel in your singleness.

The grass is always greener on the other side. I spent most of my 20s wishing I weren’t single and longing for a relationship. Now, I see women in their 30s and 40s talking about how much they miss the freedom they had when they were single.

 
I recently got married and am grateful to embark on this new chapter of my life. But I wouldn’t trade those years when I was single for anything.

 
If you desire to be in a great relationship, you absolutely will be. There is divine timing for everything. And when you are, there will be parts of the life you have now you’ll inevitably miss.

 
This moment is temporary. See the richness that this current phase of your life has to offer and revel in every minute of it, knowing that the next stage will be here soon enough.

 
Some things that are awesome about being single include getting to live with girlfriends and try on everything in their closet; the excitement that comes from a first date that went really, really well;, being able to move to a new city on a whim, or going to bed whenever you feel like it.

 

5. Celebrate love itself.

Love doesn’t just consist of romantic love. There is love all around us, all the time. When we tune into our love network and soak in all that warmth, we’re more likely to attract romantic love as well. Here is one of my favorite quotes:

 
“General opinion’s starting to make out that we live in a world of hatred and greed, but I don’t see that. It seems to me that love is everywhere. Often it’s not particularly dignified or newsworthy, but it’s always there – fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, husbands and wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, old friends. If you look for it, I’ve got a sneaky feeling you’ll find that love actually is all around.” – Hugh Grant from Love Actually

 
When I was a kid I loved Valentine’s Day. My dad would buy me a surprise gift and in school we would prepare handwritten cards for everyone in the class. I used to look forward to my desk being piled high with cards and cute little heart-shaped candies.
 

I invite you to tap back into that part of yourself this year. The part of yourself that knows what a joy it is to accept and give love in return. To anyone.

 

Start by asking yourself a few questions:

 

How can I celebrate love itself?

 

Who are those people in my life who make up my love network?

 

Where am I not being as accepting of love in my life as I could be?

 

How can I be more giving of myself to those I love? Who could I show appreciation for today? In what way?

 

Remember that love is always available to you, no matter who you are or what current phase of life you’re in. Love exists in your heart. When you nurture that relationship and actively connect to that love, you’ll experience it in a more profound way than you could have ever anticipated.

 

In the comments below I want to know:

1. What does Valentine’s Day mean to you? Is it fun or stressful?
2. Which of these tips do you know you need to focus on?

I can’t wait to jam with you on this.

 

Love and happy singledom,

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10 Romantic Valentine’s Day Date Ideas

10 Romantic Valentine's Day Date Ideas
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Valentine’s Day holds a lot of pressure for both men and women.

 

Maybe you just starting seeing someone, or you’ve been married for 25 years and want to do something special for your partner but are dreading the traditional (and forced) feel of buying store-bought roses or going to an over-priced restaurant.

 

I’ve got you covered. Because what Valentine’s Day is really all about is connecting, or reconnecting with your partner. Try any of the 10 ideas below and I promise, they’ll create a perfectly romantic, special holiday that neither of you will ever forget. Here are the Romantic Valentine’s Day Date Ideas:

 

1. Have a picnic in your living room.

 

Too cold to go outside? Create a picnic in your own home. Make it rustic and romantic by spreading a blanket across the floor surrounded by candles and flowers. Buy a traditional picnic basket and place it in the middle of the blanket to surprise your partner. Musts to pack in your basket – finger foods like sandwiches, chocolates and wine.

 

2. Plan a spa day…at home.

 

Create a spa day for you and your significant other in the luxury of your own home. Key word here is luxury. So clean your house (or order a professional cleaning) and make it special by buying slippers and a luxurious robe. Tell them that tonight is all about them and you’ll take care of everything. Start by drawing a hot bath with essential oils, bath salts or rose petals. Get cozy in the bath and have a chilled facemask ready or cucumber slices to put over your eyes. Turn the lights down low, put on some relaxing music and soak for at least 30 minutes. When you’re both ready to get out of the bath, have the bedroom ready by lighting it with candles and using massage oil to give each other a long, extravagant full body massage.

 

3. Recreate your love story.

 

This is something my own husband did that I absolutely loved. He had flowers sent to me by surprise and attached to them a card with our own unique love story written on it. This is the story of how you two met and what made you fall in love. This will help for your partner to remember what connected you in the first place and how special your own love story is.

 

4. Pretend you’re at a five star hotel.

Go full out Vegas style here. Order take-in, or make an amazing dinner and put it in store bought Chinese take-out containers. Buy fresh strawberries dipped in chocolate and a really good bottle of champagne. Hang out in bathrobes, put on an awesome playlist and keep a champagne bucket nearby with ice. Pretend you’re at a luxury hotel and have fun with this!

 

5. Play truth or dare.

Feel like you know everything about your partner or you never have anything to say to one another anymore? Play a little game of truth or dare with a bottle of wine on hand. Use the questions to get to know one another on a deeper level. You can ask questions like:

 

- If you could write an instruction manual for yourself in bed, what would you put in it?

- What would you tell your younger self about love?

- What do you think I get wrong about you?

 

For the dares, use this as an opportunity to be open to trying new things. Let each other know if it’s out of your comfort zone, but at least be willing to give it a shot.

 

6. Create a secret rendezvous.

This is your chance to channel your inner James Bond and his lovely co-stars. Have your man wear there best suit or tux and wear your favorite dress. Something you wouldn’t usually wear. Pick one of your favorite bars or restaurants and decide to meet each other there. Bonus points if you arrive 10 minutes early and have their favorite drink ready when your love arrives.

 

7. Play hooky.

Make whatever arrangements needed to have zero obligations and stay in bed all day long together. You can make your partner breakfast in bed, play board games or watch romantic movies together. Get cozy, stay in pajamas all day and have amazing, connected sex.

 

8. Have a wine tasting night for two.

Re-create a wine tasting for two in the comfort of your own home. Go to a great wine store and ask for help picking out 3-5 good bottles of wine that would give you some variety for a tasting. Ask what foods pair nicely with the different wines (preferably finger foods like cheese, chocolate or fruit) and show off your knowledge by staging a wine tasting for your lover at home. Set the mood and make it as romantic as possible.

 

9. Turn your bedroom into a romantic getaway.

Transform your ordinary bedroom into an environment that feels sexy, inviting and relaxing. Your partner will love this! Clean the room from top to bottom, buy new luxury sheets or an entire fresh bedding set, put flowers in a gorgeous vase and stage candles strategically. For bonus points buy a new piece of furniture or paint an accent wall with a color you know your partner would love.

 

10. Watch the sunset together.

Even if it’s cold, go for a romantic walk outside together. Bundle up, have hot chocolate prepared in a travel mug and stroll slowly hand in hand. Make sure to leave your phones at home. Hold each other tight as you watch the sunset over the horizon and enjoy the simplicity of the moment.

 
 
Love and Romance,
 
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