Ever Wonder How That Girl Got So Lucky in Love?

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This time of year I like to focus on one of my favorite topics ….love.
 
Why?
 
Maybe because it’s official spring and the energy of new hope and possibility is all around. And because I have so many conversations with amazing women struggling to find the love they want.
 
This is something I completely relate to because for many years I was stuck in some pretty bad cycles when it came to dating and relationships.
 
With all of the dating advice out there, does it sometimes seem like finding the right relationships feels more like a job where you have to make all the “right” moves to get ahead as opposed to connected, loving interactions with amazing men?
 
I want to introduce you to my friend and love expert Kavita J. Patel. She has found a way to put the SOUL back into finding and keeping a high-quality man (even if you date online!). She has been featured in the Huffington Post, Fox News, CBSNews, Women’s Health Magazine, Women’s Day, and more.
 
Honestly she is so good at helping you identify and release what is blocking you in love, which she calls Love Blocks.
 
She, like me, believes that there is more to finding and keeping an extraordinary man than out-dated, surface-level advice that most people are following.
 
She just released the first video in her FREE Soul Level Love training series: The 4 stages to finding and keeping Soul Level Love.
 
Click here now to grab your seat and join the conversation. In this video she’s going to reveal:
 
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  • How to know if the kind of relationships you desire truly exists for you
  • How to trust yourself in love again, let the past go (for GOOD!), and be confident around men you like
  • Why being a smart, successful, loving woman actually sets you up to have extraordinary love (No, you’re not too emotional, picky, or intimidating but there IS something bit at play here)
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    I think you’ll love what she has to say in this entire series.
     
    So grab your spot here, pull up a char and get ready to feel re-energized around your next steps in finding true love.

     

    With springtime love in the air,

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    Are You Letting Others Hold You Back?

    Are you letting others hold you back Life Coach Alexis Meads
     
    I had a great conversation the other week with one of my clients and asked her what brings joy to her life. What really makes her light up and feel awesome?
     
    I asked this because one of her goals was to feel happier on a more consistent basis.
     
    She told me that something she really loves is to get dressed up and feel attractive. But that she stopped getting dressed up because whenever she does, the other people in her office make jokes to bring her down.
     
    Things like…

    “Wow, you’ve really gotten fancy today!” or

    “Oh, I didn’t know we were getting all dressed up! I didn’t get the memo.”
     
    Maybe someone has made jokes like that to you before, or you’ve made them yourself.
     
    The result was that my client felt bad, she stopped dressing up (something that gives her joy) and well, nothing in the office changes.
     
    I recently went to a Tony Robbins seminar and he explained that one of the six human driving needs is the need for significance.
     
    Now, there are two ways to feel more significant.
     
    The first is a little harder. And that is to do the work.
     
    To follow your dreams. Contribute to your community. Put effort into your relationships. Do a better job at work. Lose the weight. Live your core values. The list is endless, and it’s specific to you.
     
    The second is the fastest and easiest way to feel more significant, and that is to tear somebody else down.
     
    It can be in a big, mean-spirited way, but more often than not it’s through those jokes that aren’t ‘meant’ to be jokes at all, or behind someone’s back.
     
    We’ve all been sucked down this road before, because in a way, it does temporarily make us feel better about ourselves.
     
    But there is a far better way to feel good about yourself.
     
    This is the road less taken. It’s windier, steeper and sometimes a little lonely.
     
    It is the true path to self-love and fulfillment.
     
    And that is by finding and living out our joy, no matter what anyone else says.
     
    As Marianne Williamson famously quotes, “As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
     
    It requires much more of you. But there is promise in this road, too. Oh yes, my fellow seekers. There is so much out there waiting for you when you align with your values and purpose.
     
    Imagine a world where we are free to be our most beautiful, radiant selves. Where we are not torn down and feel no need to tear others down. Where we embody self-love and can celebrate our successes, our wins, our bodies, our joy.
     
    Where we can feel alive, grateful and filled with energy.
     
    Where we are magnets who attract loving, soulful people into our world. Where we know that the Universe always has our back.
     
    A lofty vision, I know.
     
    But I won’t stop believing in you and you’re not alone. I’m alongside on the road with you…taking one treacherous step at a time.
     
    In the comments below, let me know what is something that brings you joy? Have you ever let others stop you from being your true self, and what are you going to do about it? Can’t wait to hear from you.
     
     
    Love always.

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    P.S. Really want to ‘do the work’ and step into more joy in your life? Awesome. My colleague Sarah Jenks is hosting her annual Live More Weigh Less challenge and it’s totally free. It begins March 23rd and you can sign up here.

     

    Baby on Board! And What that Means for You…

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    My dear friends, it is with much excitement that I’m announcing to you that we’re having a baby!
     
    In September, I wrote an intimate post about going through a miscarriage. At first, all I wanted was to get my body back and feel healthy again. But as the months went on, I was getting ready to give pregnancy another try.
     
    I learned a few things from that initial experience including what my body needed and how I would (and more importantly would not) go about being treated by doctors.
     
    I was hosting a dinner party at my apartment in January when I noticed some familiar feelings including extreme fatigue, irritability and a craving for cheesecake!
     
    So I took a pregnancy test and low and behold I got a positive result.
     
    I jumped up and down a few times, squeezed my husband and then thought to myself “Okay…here we go.”
     
    I can’t say it’s been easy. I’ve had to learn to accept and let go of a lot (more on that in a future post) as this has been one of my biggest self-love lessons ever. Also, after having an early miscarriage just a few months back, I felt worried all the time about my baby.
     
    Around 9 weeks I got confirmation that we have a healthy heartbeat, and at about 12 weeks I saw my baby on an ultrasound kicking and jumping around in my belly! So cool!
     
    So now I feel confident sharing this news with you and I’ve learned to let my intuition guide me rather than fear. The (slightly lessening) nausea and fatigue, as well as checking in with my body and babe have taught me to trust that all is A-OK.
     
    What does this mean for you?
     
    My due date is October 1, 2015 and I plan on taking an extended maternity leave as I adjust to life with a child.
     
    I will keep up my regular blog posts and newsletters so you’ll still receive free coaching!
     
    However, this summer will be the LAST time I run Crazy Wild Love Academy until the following summer of 2016.
     
    April 15th will be your final opportunity to join me for my 5-month coaching program and June 15th will be the last chance to sign up for the 3-month program.
     
    With lots of changes going on I’m only taking on a limited number of clients this year so you’d better move your buns (and fast!).
     
     
    Love and growing baby bellies,

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    P.S. Head on over to my Work With Me page if you want to snag one of my last coaching spots in 2015!

    A Surprising Side Effect of Clearing Out the Clutter

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    The first week of the Crazy Wild Love Academy always starts the same way…with clearing out the clutter.
     
    We talk about how to identify physical, mental and emotional clutter and then get to work simplifying your life by getting rid of the junk!
     
    I had a conversation with a client the other night who I hadn’t spoken to for a few weeks and she said “Oh my God Alexis…the clearing out the clutter week ended up being a whole month and seriously changed my life!”
     
    Of course I was intrigued.
     
    She said that she went through ALL of her stuff and decided to purge anything that wasn’t serving her. Going forward, she wanted to keep things simple and only wanted to make room for new things in her life that added some kind of value. I told her about the ultimate blog is simple living: zenhabits.net.
     
    And the surprising side effect?
     
    She was able to sell her designer makeup (yes, even partly used) and made over $500! She used this money to purchase an adventurous ski trip even though she’s never tried skiing before. It also launched her into a passion for clean beauty by replacing her traditional products with organic, environmentally friendly ones.
     
    The whole process left her feeling lighter, clearer and more in line with her values by supporting things she cares about in her life.
     
    So I decided to give you some tools I use in my program for clearing out some physical AND mental clutter in your life.
     
    Step 1: Tackle the Physical Clutter
     
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    Yes, love, it’s time to clean out that clutter! All that physical junk that keeps us feeling exhausted, heavy and stuck. We avoid thinking about it, which just weighs on our psyches even further keeping us from feeling at ease, clear and even getting that sexy bikini body you dream of!
     
    Go through the list below and pick one area that you want to concentrate, the one that you know is holding the most weight for you right now.
     
    What You’ll Need:

    • 3 Large Trash Bags
    • A Sharpie
    • Nearby Goodwill or other Donation
    • An Honest Friend

    List:

    • Bedroom Closet
    • Kitchen
    • Bathroom Vanity
    • Office Space

    Steps:
     
    Go through all your stuff and ask yourself, “Is this supporting my life’s desires? Does this, in its condition, make me feel good?” If the answer is no, then put it in the bag to donate!
     
    When going through your clothes, really ask yourself “Do I feel absolutely amazing when I wear this?” or “Have I worn this in the past year?” Once again, if the answer is no, in the bag it goes!
     
    Once you’ve gone through one section on the list, post what you’ve done in the comments so we can all congratulate you!
     
    Reward:
     
    For those of you feel shocked by letting go of so much, I’ve been there and know it can be scary. Simply breathe. You are doing great. When you’ve cleared out some of your clutter, reward yourself by making the space look beautiful. Buy some fresh flowers and arrange them in a gorgeous vase to add to your new space.

     

    Step 2: Tackle the Mental Clutter

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    This exercise wouldn’t be complete without addressing mental clutter. When we leave things on our to-do lists, or tell ourselves we’ll get to it next week or next year, we’re actually draining our mental energy. Let’s clear out that mental clutter and open ourselves up to to fresh energy and enthusiasm!
     
    What You’ll Need:

    • Pen
    • Piece of paper
    • 10 minutes

    List:

    • All your to-dos

    Steps:
     
    Set a timer for 10 minutes and write down everything you can possibly think of that you’ve been meaning or wanting to do! This could be those emails you’ve been meaning to send, that phone call to your Grandma or the haircut you haven’t gotten around to. Write it all down now.
     
    Once you’ve got your list select ONE THING that is holding you back the most. Commit to getting it checked off your to-do list this week.

     

    Now I’d love to hear from you. Do you ever feel overwhelmed by clutter in your life? How does it effect you? And what steps are you going to commit to for creating space in your life? I can’t wait to hear from you in the comments below.

     

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