10 Dating Tips for Men from Women

10 dating tips for men from women

I’m aware that it’s mostly women who are reading my blog, but for my male readers, I love ya and wanted to write this post.

I talk a lot about relationships and dating, but it’s usually coming from my perspective of what, as a girl, can be done.

This post was inspired by the dating trials and tribulations of my girlfriends, my clients and myself.

While my dating life has come to an end with my approaching marriage, I still hear countless stories from my friends, my clients and women who write to me.

And there are some definite underlying themes that drive us ladies nuts!

So I wanted to share with you my Top 10 Dating Tips for Men from Women. Some might be pretty, some might be ugly, but either way they are real stories that women have shared.

1. If you say you’re going to call, just call.

This is simply basic respect. If you say you’re going to call, call. We have lives too, but if you tell us you’ll call us, chances are we’re excited about that. When you don’t end up calling it either shows that you’re flaky, or you simply don’t care. A friend of mine was starting to notice a guy she was dating pulling away. She put herself out there by giving him a chance to be honest, and he said he’d call to talk, then simply didn’t. Not. Cool.

2. Act interested, but not too interested.

When out on a date, conversation needs to be a two way street. So show us you’re interested! There is nothing more boring than a guy who only talks about himself. Make sure to ask us questions and be interested in what we have to say. I have a friend who does gorgeous ink artwork, and when she showed the guy she was dating he just responded with, “Is that pen?” Come on! Be interested in our lives and what we do, but not over the top, which can be creepy.

3. Chivalry is NOT dead.

OK I know that we’re in the 21st century here, and I am absolutely an advocate for equality, but I refuse to believe that chivalry is dead. One thing my fiancé always does is hold the car door open for me. He did this even when we were first dating, and still does. It’s such a small and simple act, but chivalry is a huge turn on.

4. Pay on the first date.

This plays on the last tip. I know some girls might even argue with me over this, and don’t get me wrong, I’m fine with chipping in for drinks/dinner when out on a date. But if you’ve asked a girl out, and it’s your first date, just be gentlemanly and pay. I’ve dated guys in the past who I know were really into me, and eventually wanted to take things further, but I always remembered if they hadn’t offered to pay on our first date.

5. If you’re just not that into us, okay, but please don’t suddenly get “too busy”.

Sometimes, you’re just not that into us. And vice versa. And that’s okay. But please don’t play games. Even though it’s scary, the most masculine thing you can possibly do is to be honest with us. I have girlfriends who keep making excuses for a guy who is blowing them off because he is suddenly “really busy”. They want to believe it, that he really just DOES have a lot going on. But we both know better. We make time in our lives for something that is a priority. If you weren’t too busy a few weeks ago, you aren’t now. Just be straight up if you don’t want to see us anymore.

6. Make the plans and stick to them

Nothing drives me crazier than dating a guy who is a total flake. And believe me, I’ve dated a few of them. Girls like a guy who can make a plan and stick to it. If you have commitment-phobia about sticking to a plan, or even making a plan that’s a week away, you know, just in case something comes up – then we’re going to question if you can make a commitment to us at all.

7. Take initiative

Girls are attracted to a man who can show some leadership. Personally, I love when a guy takes the initiative. Whether that’s setting the date and picking the place for dinner, or leaning in for a kiss, show us you’re someone with a little initiative.

8. Put some effort into how you dress, we appreciate that!

I’m not saying that you have to get all dressed up, in fact, sometimes that shows you’re trying a little “too” hard. Plus, I like a guy who can dress well but also can be casual and a little rugged. But if you’re going to take a girl out, especially if it’s the first date, put a little effort into your appearance. We like that!

9. Don’t call at 2 am.

Every girl, and guy for that matter, probably has a story about dating someone who only calls or texts them to “hang out” at 2 am. If it’s in the early phases of a relationship, and you can set a proper date at a proper time, you’re better off just going home to bed than calling us up at 2 am. Simple.

10. Have confidence in yourself.

This last one is a little more positive than the rest. I don’t want to seem like I’m just ragging on you guys! I understand that men have a tough time in the dating scene, too. We all do. And often men need a dose of self-love just as much as women. So this last statement trumps all the other advice: have confidence in yourself. No matter who you are, what you look like or what you do, just be confident in that. Nothing is more sexy than a man who knows who he is and doesn’t make excuses for it.

 

Happy Dating!

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Have Total Body Confidence with Alison Leipzig

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Do you believe you have to lose the weight before you can love your body?

Think again. Our guest today, Body Confidence Coach Alison Leipzig, will teach us that Body Confidence goes way beyond dieting. It’s about learning how to embrace your body, today, and expect some amazing results when you do!

And make sure to check out and sign up for Soul Camp, coming soon!

 

Happy Friday!

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The Modern Superwoman

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Have you ever woken up in the middle of the night, realizing you didn’t send in the rent check or forgot to get back to your friend about dinner plans?

And as you begin to mentally go through all of your to-dos, you start to feel totally stressed out and overwhelmed?

If you can ever related to this, you are not alone. Welcome to the modern world of superwoman.

We want to do it all. We really do. From the kick-ass career to the great mom to the best friend or partner. But when we allow our self-care to go out the window, not only are we not able to be productive but also aren’t able to take care of the many facets of our lives.

I love talking about the topic of personal productivity because as a Self-Love Coach for women, I know how we can take on so much and end up spinning out of control.

I know, because I have been there myself.

When I first started my own business, I felt so completely overwhelmed. I was busy all the time, and yet never felt productive.

My day looked something like this:

I’d wake up to my alarm feeling drowsy and exhausted. Before even getting out of bed, I’d grab my phone and check my email. I’d roll out of bed and skip my meditation practice and exercise routine, feeling the need to get to work immediately. I’d scarf down breakfast, throw my hair in a bun and quickly dress (often in sweats if I wasn’t leaving the house). My fiancé would come home that evening to find me still inside, furiously working away. We’d have dinner together but I’d only talk about work, which didn’t do much for our relationship, and I’d continue to “get things done” until right before bedtime.

So, what changed?

I went to a great workshop called “Playing with Confidence”. We were asked to look at how much of our time and energy was being spent in various areas of our lives. I wrote down the following categories of my life:

  • Work
  • Love
  • Health
  • Play
  • Spirituality
  • Friends
  • Family
  • Relaxation
  • Beauty
  • Contribution

 

When I assessed how I spent my time I realized that almost ALL of my energy was going into work. And yet I wasn’t feeling productive.

Clearly this needed a major overhaul.

Instead, I decided to dedicate less time to work and more time to other areas of my life. Some ideas I came up with was that I would:

  • Spend 5-10 minutes morning and evening in meditation
  • Take 45 minutes in the morning for a shower, lovingly dress myself in gorgeous clothes and do my hair and makeup
  • Get out of the house to do my work or go for long walks
  • Make a point for exercise and yoga 4-5 times per week
  • Schedule a date night with my fiancé
  • Stop working in the evenings to have time for myself

 

Not only did I overhaul my schedule, but also had to do some major self-love work. Yes, I was overwhelmed and pushing myself out of my comfort zone by starting a new business. But where in my life had I been successful before? What skills and tenacity could I bring to the table?

I had to decide to love myself exactly where I was in that moment and to trust that it was unfolding perfectly.

The funny thing is that when I started spending less physical time working, and more time cultivating self-love and a balanced routine, I found myself being extremely more productive. The time I did spend on my work was more focused. I was happier, and my business and life started blooming in ways I never anticipated.

Do I have days when I slip up? Of course!

But the difference between now and then is that I can get back up, dust myself off and realize that today is a new day.

So let me ask you, in what ways are you not giving yourself enough self-love and self-care? How may you be able to incorporate this into your life?

 

Viva la vida,

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How To Feel Fulfilled In A Relationship vs. Depletion

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In today’s episode of Tea Talk we share the secret of how to feel fulfilled in a relationship rather than depleted.

This is the third part in our mini-series where we’ve talked about relationships, femininity vs. masculinity and the balance of power.

The key lies in being who you are! Relationships can fill us up or suck us dry, let them be fulfilling!

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Ahhh…Food Freedom

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Freedom.

Ahhh… Just the sound of that word makes me tingle with pleasure. Calgon, take me away!

When we think about freedom, there are so many thoughts that come up, because it can apply to so many areas of life.

What I want to talk to you about today, however, is Food Freedom.

My name’s Shannon Lagasse, and I’m the owner of Hunger for Happiness, where women come to find freedom from emotional eating, low self-esteem, and chronic dieting.

The women I work with struggle with their relationship to food, their body, and their weight. They feel ashamed of how they look, they feel guilty after eating, and they often hide out at home because they don’t want others to see them and judge them.

This is not freedom. This is a self-imposed prison comprised of self-loathing, deprivation, and general unhappiness.

And you know what you need to do to break free from that kind of prison?

Engage yourself in full-on bliss.

You need to take life by the horns, own your power, and live in the moment. You need to become the hero you’ve been waiting for, the savior you were hoping would come and take you away from it all.

Because honestly, ladies, nothing changes until you do. And that’s the truth.

When you start to change your thoughts, when you change the way you interact with others and the way you talk to yourself, when you start creating a life you LOVE, the weight doesn’t matter anymore.

You see, the weight, the food, all of that crap, is just a distraction from what’s really going on. They’re the symptoms on the surface, covering up the root cause:  unhappiness. Unhappiness due to our relationships, our careers, our finances…

And, in our culture, it is MUCH more socially acceptable to dig into a pint of Ben & Jerry’s or inhale a bag of potato chips than it is to say, “I’m really unhappy. My work is not fulfilling, my relationship lacks the passion it once had, and I’m just really not happy with the way things are right now.”

So, how do we move out of this old paradigm of feeling stuck and trapped and into the new paradigm of self-love, body confidence, and food freedom?

  1. Get honest. What’s going on in your life that’s not working? Where do you need to make some changes?
  2. Get support. Work with a coach, a mentor, or a group that will help you to make the changes in your lifestyle that will enable you to live a happy, healthy life.
  3. Get naked – spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. Allow yourself to FEEL your feelings. Live in your raw, authentic truth. Speak from the heart. Stop caring what other people think, and focus on what matters to YOU.

How will you shift your life to create more freedom? Share your thoughts in the comments!

 

 

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Bio: Shannon Lagasse, certified holistic health coach and emotional eating expert, teaches women struggling with low self-esteem and an unhealthy relationship with food how to love themselves, create their ideal body, and live a fantastically awesome life. By coming from a focus on pleasure and getting to the heart of their issues, Shannon’s clients are empowered to find freedom from food fears and fulfill their deepest desires. To learn more about working with Shannon, grab your complimentary Food Freedom Kit, and to receive her inspirational weekly articles on natural ways to get the body and life you want, visit her website:  www.HungerforHappiness.com.

Eat Play Love – Lessons from Living in the South of France

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In my early twenties, I was privileged enough to spend a blissful six months in the South of France.

I had no cellphone or regular access to Internet, but the lessons I learned from living a more simplistic life surprised me. It was the most happy, complete and balanced I’ve ever felt. First, I’m going to show you the 5 Lessons I Learned, and then, I’m going to expand upon them through story.

The 5 Lessons I Learned:

  1.  You can make possible the impossible.
  2. Set aside time to be fully unplugged everyday.
  3. Take time for meals – savor your food and enjoy the company of others.
  4. Create a balanced daily routine.
  5. Love will see you through.

 

My college offered a study abroad program, and while most students chose Australia, England or somewhere else English speaking, I had always wanted to live in France.

After an overnight flight and a bus down to Aix en Provence, full of new students who I didn’t know, I got off the bus to find my new host mother waiting for me.

And what I found, shocked me…

She spoke NO English. I mean zero. As it turned out, very few people in the town spoke English. While obviously I knew that other countries had native languages, I wrongly assumed that they must have learned English and used it frequently.

Boy, was I egocentric. What happened next, amazed me….

There was about a week of uncomfortable bumbling around, dealing with culture shock. Literally, I ran into a glass wall at a store because I was so overwhelmed. But after that grueling week, my brain kicked into a high gear that I didn’t know was possible!

It was my first experience on how unbelievably good humans are at adaptation. I started translating constantly, even when I was sleeping. It was survival for me, if I wanted to live harmoniously with this woman in her town I had to learn to be fluent, fast.

Four months later my dad and sister came to visit over the holidays. It wasn’t until sitting down for dinner with them and my host mom that I realized I had made it. I could now think in French and easily translate the conversation to my family. After eight years of studying French, it took me only four months to become fluent.

Now, I wasn’t just living the culture, I was loving the culture!

The sun shone down over the beautiful historic town and lavender covered landscape. I shopped at the markets for my cheese, wine, bread and olive oil. I was free from a computer and cellphone, completely cut off from my world.

At first it was a little lonely. I was used to seeing my friends, boyfriend and family often and being constantly connected to them via email and phone. Now I had one person to rely on, myself. It was the first time in my young life that I learned the key to my own heart and eternal happiness: self-love. I realized that I’d never be lonely if I enjoyed the person I was alone with. That love saw me through the loneliness.

I had my small group of girlfriends who I ate lunch with daily. In spite of, or because of, the delicious pastries and pizza I lost 10 pounds that I’ve never gained back. I practiced the art of eating.  Food wasn’t something to shove down while in the car or in front of a TV.  Food wasn’t used as the enemy to diet or deprive or binge. The French take time to savor their food, to truly enjoy what they eat, and to feel joyful while eating in the company of others.

My days had a sweet rhythm and flow.

I awoke at 6 am, walked the 2 miles to school and studied busily. I spent hours each day practicing my French and did homework or read novels at night. I used the computer at my school, but limited the time to a few hours.

I spent my free time painting the landscape, strolling the streets, savoring a glass of wine and traveling to nearby countries. My life had a wonderful structure I wasn’t accustomed to. It was simple, yet full of joy and meaning. I became conscious that I could stretch my limits, which grew my confidence. I worked hard, embraced self-love, rejoiced in the company of friends and valued time to play. Now, whenever I get swept away by the many demands of life, I think back to the simple lessons of my time abroad.
 
 
 
C’est joie de vivre!

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Live Your Legend from Scott Dinsmore

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If you haven’t heard of Scott Dinsmore, you need to check him out for your dose of inspiration to Live Your Legend.

As you know, here at Crazy Wild Love I am always looking for inspiration in fun places. I have rounded up some of my favorite posts from Scott to brighten your day.

Here are my favorite Live Your Legend Posts:

1. Rule #1: Surround Yourself with Passionate People

This article is great and the core of the work Scott does through bringing people together. Essentially, live your life with passion and surround yourself with passionate people, and in return you will find love for yourself, those around you and life itself. Make friends with people who change your reality, those who challenge you to believe that nothing in life is impossible. Love it!

2. TED Talk: How To Find and Do Work You Love

I love TED talks, and this is up there with my favorite!

Some of what Scott talks about is living your life by trying to make an impact on someone as well as in this world. Do work that embodies who you are as a person. Become a self-expert so you can find what you truly love and are passionate about.

3. Asking the One Question that Most Are Too Afraid (or Unconscious) to Confront

What’s the one question that you would ask yourself if you could make a difference in this world and do work that you love? What would that question be to yourself?

4. The 15 Rules of OUR Revolution (Are You In or Are You Out?)

This article, like its title, gives the 15 rules of the Live Your Legend Revolution. Some of my favorites include:

  • Push your limits. Test what’s possible.
  • Don’t do things for the money
  • Life is an experiment
  • Invest the time and energy in who you are

Aye aye, Scott!

5. The 17 Habits of People Who Change the World

LOVE this one! So many great nuggets of wisdom in here. Constantly change up your routine. Stop comparing. Get to know yourself. Believe in yourself and what your actions. Pick your surroundings wisely. Focus on the process not the outcome. My personal favorite is “Measure against your own standards, not others”. This. is. huge.

 

So go check out Live Your Legend and enjoy!

 

Peace and legend living,

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Nourishing Your Fine Female Self

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How much mental energy do you spend thinking about food each day? How many minutes? How much emotional capital?

If you’re like most of the women I work with – heck, most of the women I know – it’s a whole bunch more minutes than it needs to be, and the conversation is usually not particularly kind to ourselves.
Because we have to eat three times a day, it’s difficult not to think about food as much as we do. So how can we structure our eating so that we’re actually doing something great for our bodies? When we can find the answer to this, we can break up with a little of guilt and obsession that comes with eating, and focus on nourishing ourselves to fuel our higher purpose.

When we start imposing restrictions and limitations in an attempt to be perfect, we actually do ourselves a disservice. If you have ever experienced the crushing defeat of “failing at a diet”, and the dismal downward spiral that ensues, you know what I mean.

Taking care of our fabulous lady-selves involves so much more than just the occasional workout and taking a multivitamin. Because we are biologically in the business of taking care of people around us, we need to ensure we feel solid: that means prioritizing being good to ourselves, from food to self-talk to stress management to exercise.

Particularly when it comes to food and the female body, there are some specific things we need to take into account.

1. We are built differently than men.

2. Our needs for protein, fat, carbs and calories overall differ from men’s.

3. Dieting take a lot of work and is unsatisfying, restrictive and hard.

4. Counting calories is a useless waste of our time and takes up far too much mental energy that could otherwise be spent being awesome, making the world a better place, or enjoying our lives.

5. We do ourselves more service by eating: that is, whole ingredients prepared in a nutritious way in the spirit of nourishing and fueling ourselves.

 

If there is one thing I would wish for all the women in my world — the women I work with, the women I am related to, the women I choose to spend my social time with — it would be for all of us to give up the idea that how and what we eat are our defining characteristics.

Instead, I would love for us to all embrace that eating is a beautiful thing. Food can be a source of a lot of power (real food = real fuel, and a well-fueled woman can make a big impact on the world). We just need to focus our attention on filling our lives with whole food, and really allow ourselves to love what we’re eating. Hold the guilt, please.

Not only is this a kinder option to our minds, it’s a kinder option to our physical selves. By focusing on intact nutrients and nourishing delicious options, we ensure our bodies don’t freak out.

“Freak out?” you may ask, “Freak out how?”

Well, when the body senses it’s lacking something, it goes into panic mode. Our resources and energy shift to focus on the missing essential element, which means less energy, more erratic moods and systemic stress. Chronic stress means weight gain, acid formation, lethargy, headaches, and more imbalances, which just keeps the cycle going. The body doesn’t know the difference between stress from work, stress from malnourishment, and stress from emotions, so it’s up to us to mitigate our stress and our responses as much as possible.  A body freaking out about a missing nutrient is not a body at rest, and rest is essential to recharge the system.

When we fortify our bodies in advance, we actually set ourselves up to deal with stress more effectively: less stress on the body from a lack of nutrition and more capacity to deal with external stressors as they arise. I call this the Chaos Foundation, essentially the platform from which we can take on whatever the universe throws our way. We just need to ensure our foundation is solid.

The easiest place to start – as we usually have more control over this than anything else – is food. Let’s dig into some essential lady-tastic nutrients that support the body (and give us a great reason to eat delicious real food at every meal).

 

Calcium

The primary function of calcium in the body is the formation of bones and teeth, although it also plays a role in nerve transmission, muscle function and hormone secretion. The body’s reservoir of calcium is stored in the bones, which break down more than they regenerate as we age, so it’s a good idea to stock up whenever possible.

Contrary to what we’re taught in school, dairy is not the only (or best) source of calcium. In fact, because it’s so acidic, excess dairy leaches calcium from bones to act as a buffer in the bloodstream. (So much for all those Got Milk ads.) Great sources of calcium include fish (with bones), fortified tofu and other soy products, sea vegetables, as well as dark green vegetables like kale, broccoli and bok choy.

Recipe: Coconut Crusted Tofu served with steamed or sautéed kale

 

Iron- blood cell formation, energy, muscle

Iron is essential for oxygen transport around the body: not enough oxygen in the system means fatigue, decreased immunity, and lack of mental clarity.

We can use two different kinds of iron: heme (from the red blood cells of other animals) and non-heme iron (from plant sources). Chicken liver, dark meat poultry and shellfish are great sources of heme iron, while beans, spinach, raisins and molasses are beneficial sources of non-heme iron. Iron is best absorbed when paired with Vitamin C.

Recipe: White Bean Peanut Butter Burgers paired with some bright green veggies or orange slices for added Vitamin C

 

Folate

Folate is a water-soluble B Vitamin, and is essential for the proper cell division within the body. If we’re thinking preventatively, a strong body full of well-dividing, happy cells is going to far more resilient to stress and exposure than one packed with unstable cells. This nutrient is particularly essential in pregnancy (and pre-pregnancy, again in the spirit of preparedness) to ensure a growing baby’s cells are also dividing and growing well.

When it comes to meeting our folate needs, think ‘foliage’… dark leafy greens, orange veggies, and beans are the best way to go. Work spinach, asparagus, Brussels sprouts, broccoli, turnip greens, black-eyed peas, baked beans, and even eggs into your diet to cover your bases.

Recipe: Best Ever Roasted Brussels Sprouts

 

Vitamin D

Although Vitamin D is naturally present in some foods, we produce most of our supply of it internally from exposure to the sun. (Vitamin D is actually not a vitamin, but a precursor to a whole chain of hormones.) Vitamin D promotes calcium absorption (which is why many supplements combine the two), and assists in bone cell growth. It also plays a role in immune function and inflammation control.

Apart from a (safe) dose of sunlight each day, fatty fish and their oils (salmon, mackerel, and tuna) are our best source of Vitamin D, along with organic eggs and mushrooms that have been exposed to Vitamin D (the bacteria on mushrooms help the body convert the compounds in the mushrooms into usable Vitamin D).

Recipes: Mushroom Medley Bowl

 

Magnesium -  protein synthesis, muscle and nerve function

Magnesium is essential for blood glucose control (avoiding those sugar crashes), energy production, and glycolysis (the process by which the liver releases stored energy into the blood stream for use). This is a key metabolic process, and when it’s not functioning properly, we hold onto extra weight and experience extreme fatigue. Magnesium is also involved in nerve conduction, muscle contraction and heart regulation… see why this might be so essential in keeping us on an even keel? A body without a regular heart rhythm is a body that thinks things are more stressful than they really are.

Find magnesium in green leafies, avocado, beans and legumes (especially black beans and edamame), nuts and seeds (almonds, cashews and peanuts) and whole grains. Processed grains have much of their magnesium removed, so aim for intact, unprocessed ones whenever possible.

Recipe: Jolly Green Giant Burgers with cashews and edamame

 

Fats – mood regulation, hormones

Fats are essential to mood regulation and nerve conduction: each inch of the 45 miles of nervous system in the body are covered with a thin layer of fat which allows the electric impulses to move smoothly from nerve to nerve. Let’s support that by ensuring healthy fats – which also aid in lubricating joints, keeping us insulated, and keeping us full – make an appearance on our plates every day.

While trans fats (think: hydrogenated oils in margarines, baked goods, salad dressings) are not at all beneficial to the body, polyunsaturated, monounsaturated, and healthy saturated fats all help us absorb nutrients from the other foods we eat. Plus, they’re big predictors of a calm body. When the system knows that dietary fat is abundant and not in short supply, it will more readily release its own fats stores; not to mention, fat is calming and grounding for the body, allowing us to feel more centered in the face of external stress.

Get your fats from nuts and seeds, oils (like olive, coconut, sesame or flax), avocados, tahini, cold water fish and full-fat dairy. A little bit at each meal can help promote satiety and it makes everything taste better.

Recipe – Crunchy Quinoa Kale Bowl

 

You owe it to your fabulous self to eat deliciously nourishing real food every day. The difference is can make – for every part of the female being – is remarkable. Enjoy!

 

Guest Post by Amy Height

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Amy Height is a holistic nutritionist, avid home cook and triathlete with a passion for getting messy in the kitchen. When she’s not scouring the farmers market for obscure veggies or incessantly photographing new dishes for her blog, Amy can be found hopping from yoga studio to yoga studio around New York City, or running to show tunes in Central Park. She will probably also remind you at every opportunity that she’s proudly Canadian. Amy is the founder of From the Ground Up Wellness, a holistic nutrition practice aimed at helping women rebuild a nourishing relationship with food.

 

10 Movies to Watch When Your Feeling Stressed Out, Burnt Out or Bummed Out

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Laughter is the best medicine.

There have been incredible miracles of people who cured their own cancer from laughter.

When we’re stressed out, burnt out or bummed out we can get stuck in our own heads. Our own personal sob story spins through our heads down the rabbit hole to full-blown-poor-me-ville.

Hey, we all have days when we’re feeling not quite ourselves. And that’s perfectly okay.

But the question is what are you going to do with these days?

Sometimes watching a movie, having a good cry, or a good laugh, can be exactly what you need to bring yourself back to life.

So I compiled a list of 10 movies that always touch me in some way. And I’ll let you know, I am far from a movie connoisseur, and I also get swept away in them pretty easily.

Especially if an animal dies in a movie…oh man, that sends me over the edge.

But without further ado, here’s a list for ya:

 

Love Actually

To me, this movie is just perfect! Even if it’s not the holidays, if you’re in a slump, this is a must-see.

It brings me to both tears of joy and tears of sadness.

But that’s okay, because the whole point, is that love is all around us and that it comes in many different forms and flavors.

I could watch the opening scene where people run to hug one another at the arrivals gate of the airport…forever.

 

Tommy Boy

A long-time favorite of mine when I need a good laugh.

Chris Farley and David Spade are absolutely hilarious in this movie.

It is guaranteed to cheer you up and put a smile on your face!

All I can say is, “Fat guy in a little coat…”

 

Amelie

This is one of the most sensually and visually beautiful films I’ve ever seen. It makes my heart sing!

It uses every part of your imagination when it comes to the senses and truly makes you enjoy the little things in life.

I’ve always had a thing for movies that make a big deal out of how the smallest things in life can stand out because of the way they smell, or sound, or taste. Was I the only one in E.T. who noticed how the reeses pieces sounded when he ate them? Loved that!

Anyways, Amelie is kind of like that. Everything in the world of Amelie seems to come to life. Nothing is bland or dull. There is magic everywhere. Not so unlike real life…when we take the time to notice.

 

500 Days of Summer

I heart this Indie love story!

It all starts in an elevator when Zooey Deschanel tells Joseph Gordon-Levitt that she loves the Smiths, overhearing his ipod playing.

It’s a super sweet story, with a bit of “realness” which I love.

Boy meets girls. Boy believes he will not be happy until he meets “the one”. Sound familiar to anyone? Girl does not match this belief.

And so it goes. You’ll like it, I promise!

 

 

Forrest Gump

“Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re gonna get.”

I’m assuming you’ve probably seen this movie at least once. But, if you’re feeling down in the dumps, give it another go.

Forrest Gump is one of my favorite movies when it comes to triumph. Despite what seems like odds stacked against him, he goes on to accomplish amazing things in life. Even letting true love prevail. Ohh just thinking about that ending brings tears to my eyes.

 

 

Almost Famous

Such a classic! This is the ultimate movie about loving and following a band, freedom, youth and the 70s.

Because it’s the 70s, shit gets a little crazy. Drugs, groupies, parties, gigs, one night stands.

You follow the young William, a 15 year old writer whose articles get him noticed by Rolling Stone, and before he knows it he’s touring with the band Stillwater.

He falls in love with Kate Hudson who is amazing at playing the part of Penny Lane. Overall, great music and great acting. Super fun movie!

 

 

Dirty Dancing

The story is a coming of age drama that documents a teenage girl’s coming of age through a relationship with a dance instructor whom she encounters during her family’s summer vacation.

Part of me secretly wishes I could have been a dancer. I just love it.  Patrick Swayze of course looks amazing in this movie and the dancing is awesome.

It’s impossible to be glum when Johnny (Patrick Swayze) and Baby (Jennifer Grey) take the floor for their final dance!

 

 

Wedding Crashers

If you’re just in need of a good laugh, this movie will certainly do it.

Vince Vaughn and Owen Wilson are simply hilarious.

The plot is that the two are cynical about marriage, and therefore make it a hobby to crash wedding receptions.

When William Cleary (Christopher Walken), the nation’s Secretary of the Treasury and a possible candidate for the Presidency, announces his daughter is to wed, they of course decide they must crash the party. The rest unfolds hysterically.

 

 

Chocolat

As a lover of chocolate, this one is a must-see.

In this heart felt comedy, chocolate becomes the key weapon in a battle of sensual pleasure versus disciplined self-denial.

A mysterious woman named Vianne, moves with her young daughter into a small French village, where much of the community’s activities are dominated by a local church.

She stirs up the pot, literally and figuratively, with her delicious chocolate creations.

With the help of Johnny Depp she puts on the “Grand Festival of Chocolate”.

Very cute movie all around as Vianne brings life and color into the community around her.

 


Eat Pray Love

I really enjoyed the book and was a little skeptical about the movie, as usually movies let down me down after reading the book.

But Julia Roberts does a great job. As a lover of travel myself, I totally identified with her character – especially for those of you going through a mid or quarter life crisis.

Julia experiences what can be referred to as an “Expectation Hangover” coined by Christine Hassler. She married the man of her dreams, had a great career, moved into a nice house – and yet something was missing.

While we can’t all follow in Julia’s footsteps of moving across the world, we can learn some great lessons in life, love, and choosing to see life from a fresh perspective.

Plus, who doesn’t like “Dog Days Are Over” playing in the background?

 

 

 

Happy Movie Watching!

Alexis Signature